The Woes of being a Woman.

I will spend most of this week attempting to eat my weight in food, crying for no apparent reason at all and giving the meanest woman you can think of a run for her money. Ah, menstruation. Suddenly the fact that other people are breathing will be enough to send me off the hinges, and then into a fit of tears because I hate the fact I get so touchy. I will spend all hours of the night eating sweets and the smell of fried foods can just about bring me to my knees and I am avoiding talking to certain people for fear of the horrible (although probably true) things they may escape these lips of mine. You know whats up, Ladies.

While my homicidal tendencies once a month are definitely a woe, there is another one that has been on my mind today. We live in a time where being objectified is desired and girls bodies are maturing faster than their minds. Just because your uterus works, does not mean you should use it. I have such a hard time understanding how out of hand this teen pregnancy thing has gotten, I know, I'm preaching to the choir. But, at what point does the idea that having a baby before marriage seem like a good idea? I get it happens, it happened to ME. I am not an outsider looking in, I've been the girl staring at 2 pink lines, I know how that "you're not invincible" slap in the face feels. My case might not be like the next girls, but for 2 seconds, when that test finished developing, we were all in the exact same pair of shoes. I have done a lot of growing up since that day, of course I had no choice but to. It wasn't until my second planned child in wedlock that I realized just how skewed things were the first time. Not that I regret them in the least, both of my children are very wonderful blessings. I just wish I could go back to me at 17 and say, hey, slow down. My life turned out mostly okay, right? Why would I change anything? Realistically I wouldn't. Even through the separation and stress of everything changing, I wouldn't change a thing because I learned from it, and hopefully one day I can give some other girl wisdom and maybe save her some heart break. Just maybe.

I know peer pressure can be hard and I know its hard not to want what others have, but what people overlook now is how wonderful things are when done the traditional way; how wonderful it is to maintain values. Meet a guy, fall in love, ENJOY being in love, get him wrapped around your finger, let him put a ring on that finger, kiss him in front of God and everyone declaring him your partner for life and then carefully and excitedly plan for a child, record every wonderful moment of it. To me there is just no appeal to meeting a guy, falling in love, getting pregnant and then praying he eventually asks you to marry him. Sadly, there are times...quite frequently...when that does not happen. He leaves and all of his empty promises leave with him. Life isn't perfect, we can hope for the best but sometimes life can lay one mean right hook right on the side of your jaw. If I could go back I would tell myself, "just breathe, think it out, there is so much life ahead of you and if you stay on this path it is not going to be the way you imagined. Your fancy college degree? Its not going to happen. Traveling after your honeymoon? Darling, you aren't getting one." I am very happy with the cards I was dealt, I love being a Mother, it is very natural to me, but I also miss the fact that now I won't get those perfect firsts. My seconds seem to be fairly promising, but its adjusting to a new life and trying to make it as traditional as possible, its not the American dream. So girls, just think it out, expect more from yourselves. He does not deserve to Father your children until he is man enough to call you a wife.

A fairly easy solution to all of this is quite simple, just be a lady. Keep your head and standards high. It is never too late to turn life around, to do things your own personal "right" way. We all just need to hold ourselves to higher standards, to realize that you as a person control the decisions you make and you control your own life. You are strong, you are beautiful and you are worth tradition; the trick is to find a Man who sees that. Don't settle for a dead beat because you're in a hurry, sure he can pass the time but remember there is someone out there who wants to give you the world...who thinks you are the world. When you find him, hold on and never let go. 

Now that I have vented on here I won't have to go post "What is wrong with you?." on peoples facebook walls, you just did the world (or at least a few of my facebook friends) a favor by reading this!


                                                                            From Betty